To get started I should tell you about the name of this endeavor: Edie’s Clothes. I recently started an instagram account for my amazing 3 year old, Edith Daring, with the same name. I love sharing pictures of her. I am a stay at home gay dad (actually I am Papa) and to be honest I am starting to realize that my time in this role that I cherish so much isn’t going to last much longer (much like Edie’s actual clothes).
This blog and the instagram are my way of marking and remembering these days of adventure, and perhaps a bit of an existential crisis. While I would be lying if I said that I didn’t love dressing and styling my daughter, there is a little bit more to it than that. At least, I should say there are different layers. Yes, I am THAT kind of gay guy. I love clothes and aesthetics. I like to keep house and make beds and grow flowers. I like things to look nice and picture perfect. I like Edie to look good and to feel confident. I also want Edie to feel loved and admired and full of worth.
Raising a girl of color is complex and complicated, particularly since my husband and I are white. We have had many moments of humility and embarrassment about our privilege on our journey to being more woke. I was at a salon with Edie recently and apologized for gushing over her when her stylist whispered: “Tell her over and over again how smart and beautiful she is. A black girl can not hear it enough. She will get plenty of messages to the contrary.”
So, here I am hoping to help Edie (and maybe other brown and black kids) feel seen and beautiful and smart. Most days I hope to highlight what Edie is wearing and doing. Edie’s clothes often do not last a season. There are a lot of metaphors I can dig out of that and I am sure you can too. As a slightly older parent, a parent that always dreamed of being a parent and for along time didn’t think that was a possibility I hope to help myself and to teach Edie to slow down and enjoy the moment. Or if not to enjoy it, then at least to be in it.
I hope you can follow along with Edie’s Clothes. If there are ever any topics you want to hear about let me know. If not, I will stick with what we know best: clothes, cooking, playgrounds, crafts, gymnastics, play, singing, and beaches. Here is to making the most of the next year and a half left of being stay-at-home-papa.